Posted by James K on March 7, 2006, at 15:20:19
In reply to my troubled son, posted by heart_broken on March 7, 2006, at 14:11:28
the stuff that goes on in alcoholic's lives (including mine) goes beyond belief. I'm so sorry this happened. domestic abuse is abuse, and you have to protect yourself. I never liked the concept of tough love, but complete disregard for the people in your life requires actions even painful ones.
What he does is up to him. If he is suicidal, nothing you do or don't do is going to change that. I only say such a blunt and hard thing because you brought it up as a fear.
When he is better some day, (and I think he has a chance) the fact that you treated all this as what it is rather than pretending it wasn't happening, will make your relationship stronger and more real.
I want to give you hope. All I can say is I was an out of control young man, and managed to stay alive to middle age. I'm still troubled and about to go into treatment. but I'm here, and my life wasn't the worst thing in the world.
keep posting,
James K
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