Posted by AuntieMel on January 4, 2005, at 15:50:17
In reply to Afraid to make the big resolution, posted by partlycloudy on January 3, 2005, at 15:19:20
I've only made one new year's resolution that I've kept.
I resolved never to make another resolution.
They all seem to set a person up for failure. 'I will lose weight' 'I will not use my charge card' etc are just too absolute for humans to be able to do.
For drinking - forget the 'one day at a time' bit at first. In the beginning, it's one hour, minute, second at a time.
Break it up into 365 daily resolutions. Each day when you get up you say to yourself "I will do my best not to drink today."
And try to think of slips not as failures, but as learning experiences. Keep a journal of what you were thinking/hoing through that led up to the slip - look for patterns and avoid that type situation.
If at all possible don't be around other people that are drinking, even wine at dinner, for probably six months. And make sure there is nothing in the house. Change your route so you don't pass your favorite liquor store. Get a chaperone to go grocery shopping with you. Reduce the temptation.
Good luck. I didn't think I could do it after 20-30 years of drinking, but I'm 20 months now and counting....
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