Posted by antigua on September 8, 2004, at 11:58:32
In reply to Re: Where did I put that wagon? » antigua, posted by partlycloudy on September 8, 2004, at 8:09:35
Au contraire, you have been very helpful to me and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Drinking came up in therapy today (you must have been on my mind) and my T offered a whole other perspective that wouldn't have ever occurred to me. She said drinking was a way to identify w/my mother. A negative identification is better than none at all, she says. And here I always thought it was identification w/my father!
As is true w/so many people, my relationship w/my mother is very complicated. She doesn't know "me" and I'm always the perfect daughter. I would never confront or cross her because of abandonment issues. I know there's a lot of anger over her not protecting me when I was a child and I guess I'm going to have to deal with that.
Also, I work hard on creating non-destructive coping mechanisms, but I can't seem to find any self-sustaining ones. I never learned so in a crisis I always fall back on bad habits.
It's a rainy, gloomy day here today, but since the kids have finally gone back to school I have the day for my own needs (i.e., work!)
I dreamed about mallomars last night--do you know those cookies? They are my ultimate comfort food. If I had a box (they don't sell them here during the warm months) I would give half to you.
best,
antigua
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