Posted by Ronnjee on February 27, 2014, at 19:00:50
In reply to Re: I don't know. » SLS, posted by Partlycloudy on February 27, 2014, at 18:34:47
No shame - however unfortunate it is, financial considerations all-too-often trump everything else. However, "near impossible" is not the same as impossible. Your emotional and physical safety are are at stake with your (hopefully soon-to-be-ex) husband, who is a proven commodity. You need to bolt, at any cost. You will almost certainly be better off in the long run.
I and my ex survived separation and divorce, although our resources were thin. Marital counseling was a complete waste of time, money and effort, as too much damage had already occurred.
Marriage to an emotionally troubled person is not easy. I'll remind you that I'm married to someone I met right here on Babble. So, I know of what I speak. We both have to work hard, but at least we have a pretty good understanding of emotional stresses, etc.. It's been nine wonderful and difficult years, but we seem to have a pretty good toolbox together. If you want to be with someone, you deserve to be with someone who has those tools, too.
Compromise is one thing; ignoring a gazillion glaring red flags is another.
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