Posted by alexandra_k on August 5, 2013, at 0:53:31
In reply to Re: this community, posted by alexandra_k on August 5, 2013, at 0:15:57
it is the entitlement that people don't like.
i'm not allowed to feel entitled.
other people are allowed to feel entitled on my behalf.
and if they feel that way inclined then what is happening is not acceptable.
but one is not allowed to feel entitled on ones own behalf.
one needs to present with humility. that way others are more likely to feel entitled on your behalf. and if you are humble and someone else is entitled on your behalf then you get assistance. but if you are entitled on your own behalf you will only get blocked.
even when the government talks about how as a citizen of this country you are in fact 'entitled' (their words) to this and that... you are also 'entitled' to ask what your 'entitlements' are - and government workers are under legal obligation to tell you... but their telling you this is their feeling entitled on your behalf. which is acceptable. it is only when you internalize it on your own behalf that you have crossed the line. you are allowed to use it to help others... but you have to be embedded, you see. you have to have to have to have to absolutely must have other indivdiuals who will help you or carry you or otherwise... you will die. or you deserve to die. because you simply aren't allowed to be independent, you see. unless you are rich. and then you get privacy, too. and only then.
whether they will or whether they won't inform you of your entitlement is at their discretion. the fussy little manipulations they can or cannot make depending on their inclination and level of intelligence. 'no, we can't help you with that'. is one answer but 'no, we can't help you with that - but if you spend your food money on that then i'll give you a food voucher' is another. 'no we can't assist you with transport costs' is one and 'no we can't assist you with transport costs - but if you paid more rent to live closer we'd help you with your increase in rent' is another. and they aren't legally obliged to tell you about the second unless you specifically ask, you see. so it all comes down to their discretion.
it means that if you have your priorities in order (like myself - food is pretty important. rent is pretty important) then you find yourself struggling a great deal. but if you totally f*ck up your priorities so you spend all your money on a bus ticket and then you go cry about your stupidity to work and income they will feel sorry for you and give you a food voucher. people probably get a darwin award bonus if they actually do succeed in running over one or more of their own kids. you want me to know where my kids are before backing up my car? what? all of them?
just like tech. priorities... i do not understand.
i told you to wait there for me for 20 minutes but you got bored and lonely so you came to find me awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww how sweeeeeeeeeeeeet.
when you are filling in the online form... if you want to change a contingent like a physical address it won't let you you have to go in and see them... but if you want to change essentials like race or DOB or your name at birth that is just about altering the online fields.
the lady on the phone today was fixated on how she can help me with food vouchers. i told her 3 times that the bus drivers don't take food vouchers before throwing the phone across the room.
how do people deal with this sh*t?
i do not understand.
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