Posted by Dr. Bob on February 13, 2013, at 23:45:15
In reply to Re: anybody else? » Dr. Bob, posted by Dinah on February 13, 2013, at 10:18:25
> It reminds me a bit of those politically correct dating guidelines that the colleges were handing out a few years ago.
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> "I'm going to kiss you. Are you ok with that?"
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> "Yes, I amend our dating agreement to allow kissing, so long as it is accompanied by formal nonverbal notice and right of refusal."
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> It doesn't have the tone of actual communications.
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> Can you think of a way to make it more natural than group-like?Yes: practice.
This feels unnatural to me, too. Even after trying it a number of times already. So I've asked a colleague to coach me.
This feeling could connect with the previous feeling expressed here, of falling short. This feels unnatural, so I could easily feel I'm falling short.
OTOH, something new always feels unnatural. Learning a foreign language, communicating online, being civil -- all might feel unnatural at first, but more natural with practice. It's unrealistic to expect something new to feel natural.
Dinah, do you feel joined by me?
Does anybody else feel this is unnatural?
Bob
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