> > Okay, so I met this lady who is close to my age, and is a nurse. We met a few times, and ya we fooled around a bit. I honestly felt it all went a bit too fast. But, I also felt a bit uncomfortable, like I don't want to be batten down in a relationship, and I think that is (a relationship) what she wants. I am going back to school in January to re-train in a different career field, and want to be free to just focus on that. So, should I just come out and say it, or?
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> > Thanks for any help,
> > Jay
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> Yeah, Jay.. ya gotta be upfront about wanting a Very casual relationship. It's easy to interpret 'fooling around' as meaning there is an intent to have a purposeful relationship that includes commitment to each others' needs. So the sooner you get it out on the table that you don't want to feel obligated, the better. She might be hurt, and you could lose access to her.. but I think you'll feel better once you've said it.
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> Solstice
Yeah, I was VERY uncomfortable being intimate so soon. Most guys would be like.."Ya, go for it..", but I felt a bit violated. Yes I was willing, but she invited it on. Thanks for your's and Dinah's and Phillipa's words.
Hugs,
Jay
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