Posted by Dinah on April 1, 2011, at 9:03:26
In reply to Aloneness, posted by Tompan on March 31, 2011, at 1:10:50
I hear you and know what it feels like.
Well, actually I'm socially awkward. But even in those situations where I'm not socially awkward, I just don't seem to attract any but the most superficial "friendship". I'm lucky in that I have one very good friend and one husband and child. But still I feel lonely sometimes.
I don't think I have any suggestions other than the obvious. If you have a special interest, in real life or online, involve yourself in a group. The more you invest, the more you'll get out of it. If you're socially skilled, so much the better. From that you might find a friend or two.
Work isn't quite the same, in my experience. Particularly if your coworkers have families and outside interests. But if you are involved side by side with others in a hobby or a political campaign, or perhaps a nonfundamentalist religion, it seems to lead to greater ties. Maybe everyone leaves off their work face and invests more of their real selves.
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