Posted by Conundrum on November 10, 2010, at 11:40:26
In reply to Re: dating + mental illness, posted by ed_uk2010 on November 9, 2010, at 13:55:17
> >Sorry to turn this into a therapy session . . but I'm also curious what it is women exactly *expect* from a guy?
>
> I'm gay, I have no idea.
>Confidence, Confidence, Confidence. When in doubt confidence.
How you increase confidence is up to you. It might involve doing things you are not confident doing now though. :P
Things that can help are having a job and goals in life even if they're not huge ones, like you want to get good at karate or something like that. It helps to be out going and not seem hung up on one particular girl. Being nice helps too as long as you do it in a way that is not needy. I got a couple of g/fs just from doing nice things, like getting a ride to a party for one and the other showing them around the area when she moved here.
Even if you are uncomfortable in some social situations, you can still become more confident by learning a new skill or taking an online course or something. Reading and having something to talk about is good too. I've never tried online dating, just be sure you let them know, maybe in a joking way, that you hope they are the same person in the online photos, because I've heard of cases where the picture was a totally different person.
Complaints: post-SSRI problems: anhedonia, memory and concentration problems, sexual dysfunction. )
Country:USA
Currently taking mirtazapine and tianeptine
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