Posted by violette on August 2, 2010, at 13:30:23 [reposted on August 5, 2010, at 15:13:53 | original URL]
In reply to Re: Was Told To Take No More Meds From Someone In » 8675309, posted by Phillipa on August 2, 2010, at 12:28:48
Phillipa,
Do you think it would be good for you to keep talking with your ex-husband? I don't know your whole situation but have read some of your past posts. I think he could be a mentor for you through understanding, encouragement, and support.
I know what it's like to experience emotional abuse. And if you are around that for long enough, the abuser's words will take over your superego-eventually you internalize those words.
On the other hand, if you have someone close to you who believes in you-you can internalize that too, and believe in yourself. You could also find more of that with a social group through volunteer work....people who see the positives in you and through mutual joy of being in such relationships.
This concept is a large component of how psychotherapy works. It is truly transforming to have someone who accepts you with positive regard and understanding and who sees your strengths. It's a different kind of love. But you can have some of those effects if you surround yourself with people who view you in that light.
:)
BTW-please don't feel you have to justify your questions, actions, or decisions to anyone here. I view you as a thoughtful, intelligent, empathetic, caring person, and someone who might benefit from some encouragement, but also someone who has the ability to experience the joys of life.
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