Posted by MidnightBlue on July 3, 2009, at 23:06:16
In reply to need strength re toxic birth mom ??**trigger**??, posted by surfergirl on July 3, 2009, at 18:55:39
You don't owe your birth mom anything. Your Mom is dead. Your birth mom wants to be something she can never be. That is partly why she gave you up for adoption. She KNEW she couldn't be a mom to you.
This is so like what happend to my adopted daughter when her birth mom found her. She promised her all these things and wanted a mother/daughter or sister/sister relationship. They aren't speaking now, and my daughter is much more at peace.
Keep her phone number and address, open her letters, but keep an emotional and physical distance for your sake and your childrens.
I hope this helps.
poster:MidnightBlue
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