Posted by MidnightBlue on June 8, 2009, at 21:58:29
In reply to Question for the married folks, posted by Tabitha on June 8, 2009, at 12:32:21
I've been married a long time. Almost 40 years. The first meeting he didn't look that great to me. About six months later we crossed paths again and he looked better. After the first real date we both knew we would get married. Seven months later we were.
My advice, the guy HAS to be ready to get married-- there is no convincing him. He doesn't have to be rich or great looking to be a good marriage partner and father.
He may not realize he is ready to get married, but he can't be into the single scene too much and have marriage on his mind.
What do I consider good marriage material? He has a job and enjoys working. We share the same values and goals. He treats me with respect and as an equal. There are at least a couple of things we enjoy doing together. He does NOT get insanely jealous or say hurtful things to me or put me down.
Oh, and one really old-fashioned thing you probably heard your grandma say. "Don't give away so much of yourself he doesn't want/need to marry you."
Midnightblue
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