Posted by desolationrower on May 3, 2009, at 1:12:23
In reply to Re: My Mom wants me to get married, posted by Deneb on May 2, 2009, at 22:06:47
i don't know your mom, but she's probably both concerned with your happiness, and unable to see other life paths that could make someone happy besides ones like her own.
maybe part of it is she thinks she hasn't succeeded as a parent yet b/c of this. and thats an unfair burden on you. but wanting to ensure your kids are happy isn't a huge flaw in itself. it does sound like you need to talk to your mom about boundaries.
don't you have the crush on dr bob? perhaps she is noticing something in your life you need that you aren't seeing clearly. its one thing not to have kids or decide on a partner for the rest of life, but its rather unusual to not want an intimate relationship of any kind. what has your therapist to say about being single or defense mechanisms for this?
-d/r
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