Posted by Dinah on November 13, 2008, at 18:42:09
In reply to Re: Deneb, posted by Deneb on November 13, 2008, at 15:24:10
> But Dinah as a good point, saying I feel like dying doesn't get people to like me.
I don't think I'd put it exactly that way. I don't think it's a question of liking so much as it is of knowing their own limits?
> I just wonder why some people get lots of support when they feel suicidal but people get angry at me?
Who knows what alchemy goes into people's responses to different people. But I think we all have the feeling that we're responded to differently. I sometimes feel people don't have much tolerance for my periodic meltdowns. And that they are more angry with me than they are with other people who totally lose it.
And I think maybe you mistake the kind of response other people get. I think that it is very easy for concern to turn to anger with anyone. Not because people aren't concerned. It's a psychological response. You have probably heard of parents being scared silly because their kids are in danger, and then scolding them severely. Or since I have small dogs, I'm very familiar with the horrible sensation of accidentally starting to step on one and being horribly concerned, but end up expressing it by yelling "Quit walking under my feet?!!!" before I recollect myself and apologize.
Have you ever read Linehan? I know you're busy with school but you might really like the first part of her skills manual (or maybe it's the book) where she explains her theories. I'm not saying that everything she says is definitely true. But I sure remember laughing in self recognition at times.
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