Posted by Justherself54 on August 31, 2007, at 10:21:03
In reply to Quandry needing some input, posted by ClearSkies on August 31, 2007, at 8:51:18
> Yes, it's about my step daughter again.... if you wouldn't mind following the link
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> http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/relate/20070210/msgs/779909.html
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> Do we go chase my step daughter down and force feed some help? Or do we sit and wait for the news to reach us of the latest episode in the drama? Honestly, this is ALL any of us can think about.
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> Thanks,
> csYou are in between a rock and a hard place..If you "rescue her" again..you are just setting yourself up for more drama from the young woman..if you stand your ground and something happens..you're going to be the "heavy" and probably blamed for whatever happens to her..
The most I would do at this time is get her a cell phone (one where she can't put you in debt for the rest of your lives) so at least your DH can be in contact with her..as far as the car goes..I think back to when I were growing up.. I never had a car until I was able to afford one myself..I either got to work by bus or used personal transportation..my feet..
I was a wild child and my parents put boundries as to how I conducted myself around them..I soon found out my "good time" friends were not that good when the chips were down and when I was ready to go back to college, only then was I able to live back at home..and with rules.."you live under my roof, you live by my rules"..
I looked back at the thread and I'm not sure if she has emotional problems or is still immature and wanting to party all the time..if it's the latter..sometimes you have to learn the hard way and let life beat you up a little bit before you start to mature..
Sorry for the ramble..still waking up! BTW..my daughter was a bit like me..I had to sweat it out for a couple of years wondering if she was ever going to get out of the mess she put herself in..
It's hard and I don't envy the position you're in and the strain it must be putting on your relationship with your mate..
If I can help even by being a shoulder to lean on..lean away!
poster:Justherself54
thread:779922
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20070827/msgs/779938.html