Posted by Kath on August 15, 2007, at 13:02:39
In reply to Re: Back from week away renting cottage » Kath, posted by cactus on August 14, 2007, at 19:08:13
Thx so much Cactus. I think that's wonderful about your Dad asking you & now having some alcohol-free days!!! And big congratulations on your huge accomplishment of sobriety for such a long time!! (((((you)))))
My son has lived on the streets. The most recent time was last summer in Vancouver, B.C.
So I know he's capable of doing it.BUT the good thing is that day before yesterday, my husband & I had a talk with him & the end result of it was our son calling his mental health worker to arrange an appointment with her to help him find a place to live. The problem is that he's on a disability pension & the amount they 'allow' for rent is SOOOO low that I don't know how he's going to find a place, but I am doing pretty well at knowing that's HIS thing & he has her support to do it.
My son is really into DJ-ing - 'mixing' music...they use 2 turntables with vinyl records; have earphones, play 1 record through speakers & when they've silently set up the other using headphones, so it fits in with the first one, they start playing it on the speakers also. My son doesn't have his turntables any more, but my husband has a music program (Reason - sp?) on his computer & our son has been using it to create music. He used it ALOT at the cottage & gets right into being VERY focused on it. We are impressed at how the results are improving greatly in quality. (It's not our type of music, but we can still appreciate it). It's electronic music, but some sounds are like real instruments.
Anyway, our son has said more than once that he'd like to eventually go to school for sound engineering. His most recent 'piece' is really pretty darned impressive! We decided to 'grab' this positive interest & see what we could do.We made our decision & pointed out to our son that when he moves in Sept he won't have the use of his Dad's computer & program; as he's obviously good at it & enjoys it, we'd like to see him continue with his music & how would he like to have his own computer to do so. He said yes & that he though it was pretty amazing that we would support him in it; lots of parents wouldn't. So then hubby pointed out that, of course you couldn't do it from a van or a tent. Son said, yes, he'd just been thinking the same thing. I pointed out that he is 23 & we love him & want to see him going forward in a positive way in his life & living on the streets just doesn't fit in with that; that it's a pivotal time for him to decide which way he wants his life to go.
We said this offer is for NOW....not after a few months on the streets. And that the computer would happen after our son was in his place. The dwelling had to happen first!
So he's 'on board' about it.
I had gotten SO worked up about the possibility of him being on the street that I couldn't relax about it even though he was on board (I guess that isn't surprising given his recent 'turn about' regarding going to rehab!)
Anyway, he meets with his worker tomorrow. I have no idea how they're going to solve the limited funds part! But I'm really trying to do a positive 'mantra' of "I am relaxed & happy. My son is being taken care of by the Universe & the Universe will provide for all his needs"SO!!!! Long-winded Kath, as usual!!!
Anyhow, I'm trying to really relax into things being OK. This summer I've had to go through some pretty horrible stuff & have spent an inordinant amount of time worrying. I want to see if I can enjoy the rest of it!
You know, it's pretty hard to relax when there has been SO much stress & chaos generated by the same person. It feels like, "OK - what's going to happen next?"
I know in the scheme of things, I am very fortunate. I have worry & anxiety, but mostly, I don't have big depression (except in winter). I have a really kind, nice, supportive husband, I don't have big financial worries. I have 2 really nice kids (although 1 has big health problems & 1 has big addiction problems). I have a lovely cat & a super-cute lizard. I have nice flower gardens that I can enjoy. I have people here & in real life who are amazingly supportive.
Lots to be thankful for!!!So I'll end on that positive note!!
hugs, Kath
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