Posted by Kath on August 2, 2007, at 22:16:34
In reply to Re: SO - now it's 'no' to rehab......... : - ( » Kath, posted by ClearSkies on August 2, 2007, at 8:32:56
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> > I told him last night exactly how I felt about his failure to keep his word, & I told him today that I'm not prepared to support him in the route he's going with his life...that 'til the end of August I'm putting it on the back burner since we'll be living together 'til then, but that at that time, I'll be deciding what my involvement will be....that my goal as his parent is to see him independent & healthy.
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> Oh, Kath, I'm sorry things are going this way. This part of your post twanged me deep in my heart. My single most serious issue with my step daughter is her lip service that she's paid to me since we've met. (I think she's a compulsive liar.) Failure to follow through on promises, failure to commit one way or another... sounds familiar, eh?........Yup sounds quite familiar!!....
She's now going to counseling with her dad and I'm out of the picture. I don't think I could handle any direct involvement as she triggers me so badly. But she feels betrayed by me, that I've abandoned her, set her up for failure and she doesn't trust me.
.....jeez - that must hurt!!!!! As if you deserve that! NO WAY........
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> My therapist wants me to concentrate on me me me. It feels so selfish and wrong :-( And at the same time I'm so utterly incapable of being of any practical help..........I think that if you (and I too) can concentrate on ourselves in being as postive & healthy and happy as possible, it'll be more easy for us to relate healthily with our kids/stepkids. Maybe this is what your T means. I'm trying to 'get my life back'. Today I actually ALMOST did some pottery!! I HAVE been doing gardening, which I love - love flowers.....
> Let your tears fall, Kath, and feel my cyber hugs across the miles. (((((Kath))))
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> ClearSkies......Thanks ClearSkies (I'm so glad you have your old name back). Too bad we weren't close enough to give real hugs & let our tears mix!!
thx for your hugs & ((((((((((((CS)))))))))))
love, Kath
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