Posted by Llurpsie_Noodle on March 27, 2007, at 15:30:06
In reply to Re: Living in a angry household » Llurpsie_Noodle, posted by Meri-Tuuli on March 27, 2007, at 8:18:08
But Meri, aren't you in a better position to deal with childhood yuckiness when you're not immersed in the household everyday?
I never meant to imply that having a dream and getting away is the end of one's struggles. You and I both know that having a difficult childhood is something that will affect our development as human beings as long as we live.
But the sooner one gets started working on it, the fewer bad habits get developed.
Yes, my childhood still causes me terror. And yes, I'm in pretty intense therapy right now (psychoT and psychopharmT) to help me work through some of the stuff that happened. BUT, I'm starting to appreciate that there are two sides to everything.
horrible home makes you more likely to want to do things differently.
being sensitive to strife makes me more sensitive to people overall
feeling guilty and shamed helps me have empathy towards people who also struggle
I just wanted to push matt a bit to start planning his escape. It's gotta be very difficult and gut-wrenching to want to separate from someone that requires looking after (like matt's unbalanced mom). That's bound to cause a lot of psychological conflict. I don't know what the solution is, but it has to start with Matt taking responsibility for his own life and starting to own his future. it belongs to him alone. He doesn't have to share it with anyone he doesnt' want to share it with. choices. choices. ugh.
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