Posted by Kath on March 6, 2007, at 11:22:10
In reply to Re: :-( She didn't return AND broke up over phone, posted by Jo U.K on March 6, 2007, at 10:52:32
> Oh Kath so sorry, what a blow for you and your son.
> Trying to think of anything positive to come out of this. Maybe this could be the start of a new chapter for your son - a new beginning? He might meet someone new, someone strong who could really be a positive part of his life. Or be on his own for a while, become a stronger independant person?
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> Well, I just hope you're taking care of yourself as well as him Kath, I'm sure he's gonna need your strength right now. You can help see him through this, I'm sure.
> Rooting for you both.
> Jo***********Thanks Jo. Thanks for the positive spin on it. I'm trying very hard to step back & be lovingly detached. It isn't easy.
I'm hoping that it'll nudge my son towards actually looking at his life, and at the part drug use has played in getting him to where he is!
I don't think that will happen for a while though.
A hard part for me is knowing how dreadful I felt when my ex left me, & to know that my son is experiencing that intensity of pain, and more!! At least when my ex left me, I had 2 lovely kids. Although I was so dependent on my husband for my sense of 'self' that I was pretty obsessed with him not 'wanting' me!
Thanks for your ongoing support Jo. How are you? I can't remember if you're at home during the day or go out to work.
I send hugs & hope it's as nice & sunny there as it is here!
love, Kath
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