Posted by gardenergirl on January 31, 2007, at 17:32:50
In reply to sorry...will go work on self..., posted by alesta on January 31, 2007, at 7:41:19
> I just wanted to say how sorry I am now that I've calmed down. I'm living in a mental war zone right now, and the rage and devastating put-downs and humiliations and hurts are starting to crush my soul...
I'm sorry you are going through that. I can imagine that the cumulative effect would be quite difficult to bear all the time.
> i just really think we are adults here...give us pbc's but the lecturing by deputies feels...i don't know.
I hate feeling lectured to, especially if it's something I already know. I'm sorry if it felt that way.
> sometimes there is just a lot of emotion that a person is experiencing, and needs to be left to come to things on their own.
I don't disagree with that. Though the behavior that comes out here may not necessarily be something that can be left to come out.
> what i'm saying is lecturing them on how they should *think* when they are *feeling* irrational possibly is not necessarily...
I went back and read what I wrote, and I don't understand. I don't see where I am telling anyone how they should think. What part are you referring to?
And to clarify, since I've seen reference to intent in other posts...I never questioned your intent in your original or subsequent posts, alesta. I even think I could understand to some extent what you were talking about. My PBC post was about the way things were said, not that you said it at all.
namaste
gg
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