Posted by llrrrpp on August 13, 2006, at 11:29:51
In reply to Re: I've been thinking a lot about my life lately... » Michael83, posted by crazy teresa on August 13, 2006, at 10:14:49
Michael,
that was so sweet of you to say nice things about psycho-babblers. I think you're a good guy.It's funny, whenever I'm going through a transition in my life, like after high school, after college, and after getting married, I always feel this sense of inadequacy. It's because I'm comparing myself to others, or comparing my plans to my dreams.
But right now, I'm just in a regular place, no big transitions for at least 6 months. And life is okay.
You're going to do just fine. And maybe you haven't made giant risky steps to make your dreams come true, but that's okay too. Just take a step back and recognize your achievements in the big picture. For instance, I think you're an excellent writer. You express yourself very well, and this is a skill that you will have at your fingertips your entire life. It will serve you well.
Another thing is that you realize that you have big dreams and plans. Some of us (me) never allowed ourselves to dream 'what ifs'. I think it's great to daydream about what your life could be. But on the other hand, it's also okay to recognize those dreams as a fantasy. A pleasant escape from the current situation. Are there practical things that you can do to move closer to some of your goals? For instance, maybe you want to get a PhD, but you're terrified of failing. Why not start off by taking some classes at the local community college to find out what area interests you? Are your dreams things like "get an M.D. from Stanford University" or are they things like "find a career where I can be satisfied for many years"? If you have unreasonable and specific expectations (like the former) it's no wonder that you're scared to take a risk. You've set yourself up for dissatisfaction. On the other hand, some kinds of goals are more realistic, less specific, and probably more satisfying.
Anyways, just a few thoughts. I hope you can find a way share your talent and heart with the world, and best of all- to recognize and embrace your own strengths.
yours,
-ll
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