Posted by Estella on August 8, 2006, at 22:30:54
In reply to I got labelled as a troll...again :-(, posted by Deneb on August 8, 2006, at 21:42:29
I agree with Gabbi. That is why... Though I have trouble with *some* of the civility determinations / blocks / lengths of blocks I keep posting here instead of other places. These boards *are* more supportive than other boards I've found out there that have minimal (or absent) moderation.
> Why does this keep happening to me?
Because... They don't know you very well?
People tend to get labelled as trolls when people think they are posting *just* to provoke a negative reaction from others.
What that means... Is that people may experience a negative reaction, and then go on to blame you for their negative reaction.
Why do they have a negative reaction?
Typically it takes time for people to get to know you. If you just start posting about how upset you are feeling on a board where people don't know you and haven't seen you support other people... Then people are more likely to catch some of your upset and think you are doing it on purpose and label you as being a troll.
It isn't your fault. But maybe that explains *why* it might be that you tend to get labelled as a troll. We know you aren't a troll over here because you post when you are happy and when you aren't happy. Because we see you post wonderful supportive messages to others as well. It takes time to get to know someone. It is probably just that they don't know you very well and they don't see you posting supportive messages to others the way we do.
> Someone convince me I'm not a troll and make me feel better.Perhaps you can internalise some of the stuff other people say to you (the helpful stuff) and start saying it to yourself when you get distressed. That is a way of helping yourself feel better rather than relying on others to help you feel better.
> I'm not a troll.Great! I agree 100%
> I went to the Babble Party. Would a troll meet others on the message board?
Yeah, thats great :-) See? You aren't a troll and you know you aren't. I understand that it can be hurtful when other people say things like that though :-(
You are doing okay.(((((Deneb))))))
poster:Estella
thread:675054
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