Posted by Racer on July 11, 2006, at 22:38:10
In reply to Re: I think I really do have a BPD, posted by Deneb on July 11, 2006, at 20:32:58
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> I hate it when things don't turn out right. I hate it when people don't accept me.Deneb? I think those are two separate issues, can you see that?
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> sigh. I hate it when I can't do the things I want to do. I like posting about the same things over and over again, but people are getting annoyed. I'm not welcomed anymore.Maybe it would help if you're clear on what you're looking for from other people when you post. When you post here about the same things over and over, maybe anyone who got annoyed would be less so if you were really clear that you weren't looking for a response that included any sort of suggestions for how to help yourself, that you were just posting something to post something? Does that make sense? Maybe saying something like, "I'm just venting, I know I could do things to improve this, but I don't want to, so I'm just writing this to get some sympathy?" That way, people who read it could decide whether or not to respond based on that.
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> Some people really don't like me. They think I have bad intentions.You didn't answer Phillipa's question, Deneb. Are you talking about that cancer site? I can understand why someone there might react badly to you: your doctors have told you -- over and over again, it sounds like -- that the lumps you're concerned about are benign breast cysts. They are *not* cancer. The people at that site are dealing with real cancer, with real death sentences in many cases. Can you put yourself into their place, emotionally, for a minute and think about how your behavior might look from that perspective?
I've said this before, and I'm going to say this again: Know your audience. Here, we tend to be pretty tolerant, because most of us have suffered with reactions to someone else's response to us. We give a lot of slack, and Dr Bob has civility guidelines that protect everyone here. That's not only not true of the other board you're discussing, it's also not true of the world at large. Maybe learning that one lesson: identify the audience you're addressing before you address them. Maybe that would help you.
Good luck.
Oh, and Deneb? I'm finding lately that I feel frustrated when I respond to your posts. I think I'm not going to respond for a while, because I don't like feeling this way.
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