Posted by Kath on May 24, 2006, at 11:27:05
In reply to Re: Can't detach from 22yr old son's stupid choices... » Kath, posted by AuntieMel on May 24, 2006, at 10:57:57
Thanks AM - you're right - he IS acting like that & thanks for reminding me about Al-Anon. Good idea.
I haven't heard from or spoken to him since last Friday, which is good. The more I DON'T hear from him or know what's going on in his life, the better for me.
K
> Well, it's not really important if he is 'addicted' to anything or not. The important thing is that he is *behaving* like someone who is addicted.
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> Are there al-anon groups there? They are like the co-dependency groups, but more widely available. Perhaps one of those would help you keep perspective.
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> It's so hard for a parent. I've seen it time and time again. The logical side of you says that bailing him out and helping him will only make it worse, but the 'mom' part of you just wants to kiss it and make it better.
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> The best - and most difficult thing - is to somehow merge the logical and emotional into a 'right' solution.
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