Posted by TexasChic on May 11, 2006, at 20:22:16
In reply to My brother is leaving tomorrow., posted by TexasChic on May 10, 2006, at 19:05:12
For the past couple of weeks, the bullies have switched their attention back to their previous victim (I'll call her A). Yesterday, bitchygirl flipped her off across the room and and A lost it. She yelled across the room, "How about you come say that to my face!" They went back and forth a couple of times. Everyone was just sitting there with their eyes and mouths wide open, supervisor included (it was very startling).
After work, A approached me to talk since she knows what I've recently gone through. I told her I didn't blame her and if bitchygirl had happened to catch me at the wrong time, I may have lost it too. She said she had talked to our supervisor (who BTW, asked bitchygirl to apologize to no avail) and was going to go to HR. Today she told me she had done that and her complaint was now on file with mine.
I started thinking about everything. I realized that as quickly as the attention had turned from me to A, it could turn back. I also thought about the fact that if I do nothing, I'm allowing her to terrorize future people. So I went to HR and talked to two ladies who worked there. They said the person I really needed to talk to would be in tomorrow, but encouraged me to talk with them. I told them everything, including I was looking for another job, and they were like, "I wouldn't want to work in that environment either!" Then they started talking about how my department was the hardest to keep people in, and this girl could be the reason why! I told them I completely believed that.
So tomorrow I'm going to talk to the other lady, and tell her to make my complaint formal. This will cause bitchygirl to be written up for both complaints. I don't know how many means termination, but it ought to put the fear of God in her. I realize I may get a backlash from the rest of the group, but I really don't have anything to lose at this point.
So wish me luck and courage and positive karma for tomorrow, I'm standing up to a bully.
-T
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