Posted by Deneb on March 31, 2006, at 22:32:39
In reply to Re: You are okay » Deneb, posted by special_k on March 31, 2006, at 18:50:09
> The point to that is that it isn't just about learning to modulate the negative emotions, but it was about learning to modulate the positive emotions too. Why? Because unmodulated positive emotion... Can lead to a crash. And so it is more about learning to modulate both extremes. It is hard work though :-(
Yeah, I tend to feel things to the extreme, don't I? But...I don't know if I want to dampen the happen times. I'm convinced I can maintain a super happy mood without 'crashing'.
> Because you were feeling really very happy. And it was so nice to see you feeling really very happy. It was. You deserve to be happy. You do. I'm sorry. I think I have done badly.
(((((special k)))))) What makes you think you've done badly? You deserve to be happy too.
> Sometimes (when I'm in a good place) I think I can be helpful sometimes. Othertimes (when I'm in a bad place) I think I can be more hurtful than anything. And I'm sorry for that.
You didn't do anything to make me feel bad. ((((special k)))))
> But I guess I do think that you should rethink trying to give him the scarf. Why? Because it does symbolise one hell of a lot. And hence because whether he accepts it or not; whether he keeps it or not; whether he wears it or not; all of that has a huge symbolic meaning for you too... And it means more to you than it does to him... And it is a huge thing to place onto another individual. I don't know. I'm sorry.
I appreciate your opinion. I really do. I value it a lot. I really truly will think long and hard about the scarf thing.
> > Now it might be awkward meeting Bob and the others.
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> Lol. I think it would have been plenty awkward anyway. Really. I think you will find that everyone is going to be worried about themself...I'm glad I got a laugh out of you. :-)
You're probably right. Everyone will be far too busy worrying about themselves to notice what I'm doing wrong. LOL
> I'd love to meet you one day. Really.
Me too. I really want to visit your part of the world one day. Maybe some day it could happen. :-)
> Lol. I believe you. I'm really quite inhibited IRL too. If I ever got to a Babble party I think I'd be the one staring at the floor hardly saying a word. It is different on the boards where people can't look at you and you can't see their reactions and stuff. I understand. I say stuff here I'd never say IRL. Not even to people here.
Me too. It's almost like I'm a different person on the boards, but I know that both are the real me.
> I don't think you need to feel ashamed. And I'm sorry that you do.
I think I'm over the shame now. (Boy, that was quick!) I think you guys really helped me out. :-) Thanks. There really is no good to come from me shaming myself. I don't want other people to feel shame if they did/do what I did/do with regards to the Bob thing.
> > I need to help others out. Offer my support. I need to read more and yap less.
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> Me too.
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> :-(Hey, you help lots of people! You're one of *the most* helpful persons on the board. You're a superstar. You're one of a kind, your name suits you. Special...you're truly special. :-)
I hope you feel better soon. I'm sending you some love.
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Lots of land~~~a whole heck of a lot of water~~~~~~special kDeneb*
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