Posted by gardenergirl on March 15, 2006, at 14:21:38
In reply to Re: Phew, crisis averted, posted by Deneb on March 15, 2006, at 11:09:41
Deneb,
What you write of seems to me to be severe anxiety. One of the biggest things I do/used to do (I'm still working on it) is AVOID things that make me anxious. It's clear from your posts that taking tests is anxiety-provoking for you. And you've mentioned a bigger issue might be anxiety about "growing up" and being indpendent in the world as a young woman.I think all of this is about anxiety. The thing with anxiety is that the more we avoid it, the bigger it gets and the more problems it causes. Facing it head-on like you did in taking the test anyway, despite your anxiety, is the way to deal with it and make it "smaller."
Finding ways to soothe yourself, to talk yourself through, and to cope with the actual feelings of anxiety right in the moment will help you APPROACH it rather than AVOID it. Soon, you'll learn that it's something you CAN survive, and it will get easier.
You're already on that path. Good for you. Keep doing the things that you found worked today, and keep reminding yourself that you can survive anxiety.
Take care,
gg
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