Posted by TexasChic on February 11, 2006, at 21:02:40
In reply to Roommates fighting.... again, posted by deirdrehbrt on February 11, 2006, at 20:33:40
Don't you dare feel bad for her, you're only in charge of taking care of yourself. I say that so venemently because I've so been there. My T said I was a people pleaser. Its hard to decide where to draw the line when you're an extra sensitive person who always cares about others. But you can't sacrifice yourself for them, especially when what they really need is to help their self.
When I started trying to put myself first, I felt completely heartless. But after a while, you realize that by being a marter, you're not really helping anyone. Its so amazing when the realization hits you that its OKAY to put yourself first. Like what Opera calls a lightbulb moment. Besides, if you're not taking the upmost care of yourself, how can you help anyone else?
You're right that this is an unhealthy environment. I know what its like to have your home life be stressful and unstable. It effects your entire life! You never really get the chance to relax. Your home should be your haven.
I was so scared to move out on my own a year ago, but now I wouldn't have it any other way. I love it! I mean, I have my problems, isolating myself, not being able to keep the place clean, but compared to what I went through before, its heaven.
Try to put yourself first, you deserve it.
-T
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