Posted by Susan47 on December 27, 2005, at 14:12:48
In reply to Re: I don't know how not to feel bad about myself » Angela2, posted by TexasChic on December 25, 2005, at 20:55:55
I agree with what you've said, with an addendum if I may, which is that I think it's because I was emotionally immature that I was manipulated so much, and I was manipulated so much because my emotional maturity was stuck in a very young, unguarded place, a place where I still believed "evil" was a word stemming from religion, not human experience.. so the more gullible I was, the easier I was to manipulate and the harder to became to see it as manipulation, which is where I think the guilt comes from. When we're manipulated, nobody really knows it until we start getting sure of who we are, which is I think where the maturity comes in. I mean, if we really understood how easy it was to manipulate people like us we would have no reason to feel guilty, but we'd sure as heck start getting angry about it.
I think it's good to feel angry about how easy we can be to manipulate, because it opens our eyes to ways to take care of ourselves, respect and appreciate who we are as people, and then nobody can get past the manipulation radar as easily anymore, and when that happens, the dynamics start to change for the better.
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