Posted by alexandra_k on September 18, 2005, at 19:15:16
In reply to Re: I'm afraid of myself *trigger* » alexandra_k, posted by Deneb on September 18, 2005, at 16:59:32
>There just never seems to be enough support. People try to fill me with support sometimes, but I think there is a leak...
> Pretty soon people stop trying to support and comfort me, because I cannot be consoled. :-(Yeah. I hear you there. Linehan talks about this... About how at times people with BPD seem to be in so much pain... And about how clinicians can sometimes feel like they are leaky in the sense that no matter how much support and encouragement they offer it never seems to be enough. And so people with BPD can come to feel that way too... And her answer to that... Was that basically thats not true. But you need to learn about that too. I do hear you. Sometimes I'm in such a bad place and I really want / need support. But the support that is offered doesn't seem to be enough... And the answer is that it does help when people offer support. And it does hurt when people don't offer support. But even when people do offer support... They can't fix it / make it all better. You need to do something active with the support that they offer. And you can learn to do this (and I need to learn to do it better too). And you can learn to look after the people who are trying to help you too. There are things you can do to help people want to help you. But they have to be learned too... And it is hard. And I hear you there...
> I just want people to make me feel better, but I think I have to make myself feel better.Yeah. Its about learning how to actively do something with the support that people offer. Like how your p-doc has said some things to you... And they are things that you remember sometimes when you aren't doing so well and they seem to help.
> > When is your appoitment?> This Tues.
I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. I really really will. Can you ask about whether you might be able to do DBT? DBT will teach you a LOT of skills that I reckon will be really really helpful to you.
> I think there is something wrong with me. I haven't done anything productive the whole weekend. I sleep most of the time when no one is around. I sleep even though I am not tired. It's like I don't want to live my life.
Sounds like my weekend ;-)
I get the sleep thing going on too... Trying to sleep my life away... And sometimes it is hard to muster productivity... Don't beat yourself up about it (that will probably make you feel like going to bed to escape it all!)((((Deneb)))))
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