Posted by sunny10 on August 30, 2005, at 8:39:18
In reply to Re: What's going on? » jerrympls, posted by JenStar on August 29, 2005, at 20:13:46
Jerry,
I know what you mean about the uncertainty killing you.
I, too, suffer from a need to know that everything is going to turn out okay. I know what it feels like to not have any control over what is going on. How scary it is.
I also know that I have been through a lot. Every person that has heard the story of my life has asked how it is that I'm still alive. Still paying rent, still holding a job, still hanging onto a shred of sanity.
But I am. I work hard at it. I have learned that although it may seems that circumstances are out of my control, they really aren't. How well the move goes depends on how well you can get done what you need to do. Recouping your monetary losses depends on how much you can scrimp on little things like ordering meals instead of cooking them, et cetera.
And if you're a closet control freak like me, you can do it. BECAUSE it's a matter of control.
Just focus on everything that IS within your control and let the stuff you can't control just fall in place around what you do.
Unsupportive parents, believe it or not, we can control. Either we yell at them- make them see what we are feeling. Or we ignore them, knowing that their particular brand of "helping" is anything but helping you at the moment.
I like PlatinumBride's idea of switching back and forth from preparing for the concert and packing. It is the perfect mix of cerebral and non-cerebral activity. Doggie's needs right now will be recuperating, so by you keeping busy on your stuff, you will be allowing him to rest up, too.
Tackle one idea at a time.
You can do this.
When you need to vent, do so here; we'll listen.
-sunny10
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