Posted by alexandra_k on August 24, 2005, at 18:59:18
In reply to it's not silly! » alexandra_k, posted by JenStar on August 24, 2005, at 18:24:40
Hey. I don't think they will make toooooo much of a big issue out of it. I had a bit of a chat with the one I was organising pizza with. About how neither of us wanted to cook. The trouble is that xxxx is a pretty good cook and sort of stands over you and asks what you are doing and putting in and why you are doing it like that etc etc. Not in a nasty way, she's trying to learn new skills and tricks but I've already told her that I feel really uncomfortable when she does that and I really would prefer it if she could ignore what I am doing.
And so... I have talked to xxx about that already. And she has wanted a shared dinner all year and I have already told her that cooking is a hard thing for me and so she said it was fine for me to get something brought in. But I guess I have been sort of avoiding it. Whereas she has clearly put a lot of thought and effort into it. Sorry to be anti-social guys... But... There it is.
I guess what is so tricky is that she will know why I'm not going. And she will give me the 'its not so bad we just want the pleasure of your company' line. But then if I turned up with nothing she would not be happy so I've learned not to take her offers of assistance terribly seriously.
I don't really want to get into a deep and meaningful about this.
I imagine it will be okay. I'll just emphasise the business and I'll just say that I didn't need any added pressure about now. Which is pretty much the truth.
I really was struggling... I suggested that I'd thought of getting a box (might make the whole thing more bearable) but she sort of seemed disapproving so it was round about then that I thought I'd just not go.
I think... I get what you mean about swallowing. Chewing is my issue. Ugh.
poster:alexandra_k
thread:546104
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20050819/msgs/546220.html