Posted by JenStar on August 24, 2005, at 18:24:40
In reply to Re: so this is really silly but... » Dinah, posted by alexandra_k on August 24, 2005, at 16:40:47
hi Alexandra,
I hope the flatmates don't make too big an issue out of it!If there's one of them that you get along with better, could you try to explain it to her? I mean, not that you "owe" them an explanation...but it might make you feel better if you told them sort of why it makes you feel awkward and uncomfortable. Hopefully they'll be understanding about it. WE all have our own hang-ups and neuroses!
I remember when I was starting my very first job out of college, I used to go out to dinner/social events with a group of "new hires". Sometimes I'd feel so nervous and anxious at dinner that I'd forget how to swallow and would almost choke!
I know that sounds weird, and it probably is -- but my throat would close up and my tongue wouldn't work properly, and sometimes I would sit there in a panic for about 20 seconds trying to swallow a bite of something without gagging or choking. Nobody every noticed, and eventually "it" went away. But I still remember the feeling of panic and horror I'd get sometimes when eating with them all.
So anyway, I have empathy for what you're going through. I hope things are OK with the flatmates!
JenStar
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