Posted by jazzed on June 26, 2005, at 10:38:56
In reply to Re: Pretending to be stupid » Deneb, posted by Jen Star on June 25, 2005, at 18:51:21
> I don't know why I didn't correct her. I actually didn't think SHE needed to feel smart. Maybe I just knew that she and I would never, ever, ever be friends, and that it wasn't worth my time & effort to even correct her? Maybe it was actually an INSULT on my part NOT to correct her, sort of saying that it wasn't even worth my time to correct her?
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> But other times I HAVE let kindly elderly ladies or shy people tell me something I already knew (maybe better than they did), and thanked them politely, and that was it.
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Hey Jen,You probably did it because you're polite, you don't feel like you need to correct ppl who you know are wrong. Besides, in the first example you gave, the woman probably wasn't worth the energy, she might have started an argument, and you might never see her again, or you can hope never to see her again so you might not want to waste your time/energy on her! ; ) I think you're just secure, and want to be polite by letting the small stuff go. Pick your battles, you know. It took me a long time to figure out it was just easier to smile, acknowledge, and let it go. (and then roll my eyes!)
Jazzy
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