Posted by Jen Star on June 25, 2005, at 18:55:21
In reply to Re: Pretending to be stupid » Deneb, posted by Jen Star on June 25, 2005, at 18:51:21
actually I think it's a defensive mechanism. We know that to make friends we need to GIVE and also to GET advice. If you happen to know a lot of "stuff" you might not always need the advice from others, but maybe you want to take it to make them feel useful. Maybe you (we, me, etc.) feel the need to let the other person "help" us so they feel needed and therefore want to continue the friendship with us, b/c they feel useful. At least I think I feel that sometimes with people I'm not that close with. CLOSE friends and family, it's different. I'm opinionated and talk a LOT. But when I'm getting to know someone, I sometimes do it.
And I think there might be a bit of self-esteem issue in there too, like Lunesta suggested. I know I often have those self-esteem problems.
I think it's complicated!
But hey, you don't need to pretend to be dumb here. You can be as smart as you want, and as smart as you are! :) Your posts have never seemed dumb to me, ever.
JenStar
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