Posted by AuntieMel on April 14, 2005, at 13:57:42
In reply to Re: ((((((((((Susan47)))))))))), posted by sunny10 on April 13, 2005, at 13:09:06
"(I have seen for myself that he is perfectly capable of having a few- it's when he gives himslf permission to "make it a drinking night" that he gets out of control. I don't really expect him to give up having a couple of drinks every now and then; but I wasn't silly enough to tell him that!)"
From a person painfully familiar with addiction, I'm hearing something dangerous here.
Boundaries is boundaries. If he has a true coke addiction it is *not* ok for him to have a couple of drinks occasionally.
He may be able to just have a few when he's not coked up, but if he quits drugs then drinking is the next worse thing. I've seen this so many times I know it to be true. A person gives up coke and is doing beautifull for several months and then decides it is ok to have a glass of wine with dinner. The wine lowers the will power and it is almost guaranteed that person will be out drugging again.
I'm glad you didn't tell him it was ok. Please don't.
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