Posted by Dinah on March 29, 2005, at 20:29:01
In reply to Re: tis been awhile, posted by Tamar on March 29, 2005, at 16:10:51
Perhaps because one is morality, and the other ethics?
And how do you know who would be genuinely hurt and who would rather not know if you don't talk about it openly? Is it acceptable to risk hurting those who would be hurt because some might not be? Since the general expectation is that entering a committed relationship means entering a committed relationship, how would a spouse know otherwise if they didn't discuss it? How would the outside party know? And how can anyone decide to risk hurting someone without knowing?
I find it interesting that people who think it's acceptable would also rather not know. While there are things that I'd rather not know in my marriage, it's because I know that they aren't acceptable so I can't risk finding them out. I find it hard to wrap my mind around thinking something is ok, but not wanting to know about it.
Especially something like this, where it so often does become known. And again, there's that whole penis/vagina thing. I want to know where that's been before it comes in intimate contact with me.
But apparently that's just me - at least here. There seems to be lots of support for infidelity on the board. :)
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