Posted by Tamar on March 26, 2005, at 21:21:28
In reply to Re: tis been awhile » Tamar, posted by Dinah on March 26, 2005, at 20:12:11
I think you're right: both parties would have to agree. Having said that, I can't quite imagine *myself* in the scenario you suggest: with the meeting of other spouses and discussing planned activities! It sounds very sensible in principle. I think, though, that if my husband were going to have friendly sex with someone I'd rather not know about it. But if I found out about it, it wouldn't be the end of the world.
And although I talk about my husband doing it, I can't quite imagine myself having friendly sex at the moment, unless I could do it in the dark without taking my clothes off (not feeling very confident about my attractiveness right now!).
Seriously, though, even having a discussion beforehand might not cover all the bases, because people's feelings can change, and being sexually intimate with someone might lead to a more powerful emotional connection than anyone expected. I suppose that's why infidelity is considered so socially unacceptable even in this permissive age.
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