Posted by partlycloudy on February 21, 2005, at 8:48:52
In reply to Re: The Temptress. » Toph, posted by AdaGrace on February 21, 2005, at 8:03:27
AdaGrace, how strange it feels to me to see you mirror so many of my actions in my past. I think that when I moved to England I had a true identity crisis. I had worked on keeping myself in shape and dressed well - then I moved to a place where, culturally, those things are not noticed as outwardly as they are here in North America. **Disclaimer - this is what my experience was, not a reflection of anything REAL!! **
The upshot was that all of a sudden, I felt invisible. No one took any notice of me, no matter how nicely I dressed or how outrageously, either. Those folks were just so darned polite. It took away an entire way that I had been defining myself, though. I felt belittled by having my outward appearance so utterly ignored. What I realize now is that I was in a community where these things weren't taken into account by others. On reflection, it was a great gift to be known for my more unseen qualities; but at the time, I felt crushed.Don't know why I posted this except to say that how I see myself has changed over time and I give much less credence to appearances than I used to - and that's a good thing.
((((AdaGrace who has to stop looking in mirrors to find her beauty))))
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