Posted by fallsfall on February 19, 2005, at 13:35:57
In reply to Oh sweet miracle .., posted by jay on February 19, 2005, at 0:27:01
I'm glad you met someone nice! Just take it slow and see what happens. You will probably date a lot of women before you find your "perfect match". If you can try to just have a good time, and get used to doing things with women, things will work out great for you.
Leave your previous girl in your past. She obviously wasn't a good match for you. But that doesn't necessarily mean that there was anything awful about her, or awful about you. It just means that you weren't a good pair. I know that you are angry at her, but I guess I would see it more that the compatability wasn't there. There *are* women out there who will be compatable with you - and there are men out there who will be compatable with her. You just have to keep looking around until you find one.
I was married for 19 years. I have been on a couple of dates since. So I know how tempting it is to say "Ah Ha! I've found *the* one!" and to wish that was true, and to fight to *make* it true. But I think (I'm not saying that *I* can do this...) that it is more successful to let things progress at their own pace - or not progress. It is a process. It will take time. Not everyone will be a good fit for you. Try to enjoy the process.
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