Posted by Joslynn on January 27, 2005, at 16:38:31
In reply to Re: me, posted by spiacente on January 26, 2005, at 20:28:58
You sound very insightful and intelligent about your issues. Fear of abandonment is a huge thing, at any age.
In my last post, I neglected to mention that yeah, posting those fake posts on the other site probably wasn't the best strategy, but it sounds like now you know that. Now is your time in life to make mistakes and learn these things. But don't beat yourself up for the posts, because they were out of a place of pain, and it sounds like she had changed her mind by then anyway. Who knows why? Fifteen year old girls cannot even decide how to wear their hair or what their favorite music is, let alone who to have as a boyfriend.
As for those other girls who threatened suicide...that is not something that you can control. Most likely, they are ok. I just remember that I would feel suicidal when boys didn't like me at that age but here I am years later, alive. Don't feel like it is your "fault" that their self-esteem is that fragile. There is a good chance that they, and you, will get stronger. These things are very hard at first. But all you can do is try to let them down easy and pay attention to your own life and future. If they are ready to hurt themselves right in front of you, maybe tell a guidance counselor or call 911, but there is not a whole let else that you are obligated to do to "fix" them.
Note: Things usually get so much better in college for smart, complex people!
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