Posted by smokeymadison on November 29, 2004, at 18:08:32
In reply to What's wrong with me??, posted by tampagirl70 on November 29, 2004, at 10:22:51
i have only been in my current relationship for a year, but i know how you feel. sometimes when i am down or just plain agitated i can't stand my boyfriend and other times i love him to death. i just try to keep in mind that loved is a decision to stay with that person, not a feeling.
now what your decision should be is much trickier. i have decided to stay with my boyfriend b/c i am more stable with him. i am not cut out for dating b/c i get way too attached way too quickly and then the relationship usually blows up. my boyfriend has been through hell with me and i know that he won't leave me. my old therapist called our relationship a need-based relationship. it still is a little. but not near as much as it used to be.
i would ask yourself why you are with your husband. just b/c you don't FEEL in love doesn't mean the relationship has to or needs to end. feelings come and go. if you guys are good for each other and together can live better lives than you can apart, don't let your current feelings take over and end the relationship. i am by no means an exoert on relationships, but i truely beleive that love is not a feeling, it is a decision. hope this helps some.
SM
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