Posted by bridgey1128 on November 23, 2004, at 16:06:15
In reply to Anti Ritalin » headachequeen, posted by saw on November 22, 2004, at 0:42:23
Sunny, I hate to tell you, but a private school won't touch your son if he isn't on medication. Most won't allow a child with ADHD even IN the school unless they are on medication. That is their right, they are private. Adderall is a HORRID, HORRID, DRUG!! I have never heard of anyone getting hurt from Ritalin. If they were, they probably didn't need to be on it to begin with. I honestly think it all begins with the parenting. There are way too many kids out there who are dubbed ADHD who aren't, they are just the result of bad parenting skills. Not to say any of your kids are. I am just saying I have seen too many in person that you look at the kid running around in circles thinking, man that kid should be on something..and yes I have been guilty of that in the past..and then you look at the parent and what are they doing? NOTHING!!! Talking to someone else, reading a book, TOTALLY ignoring their child screaming, or hitting some other kid, or falling or doing something else without any kind of regard to anyone's safety, much less their own child. Our son is on Concerta(long lasting Ritalin) and it is fantastic. No side effects. Even his eating is better because he can actually SIT STILL and concentrate long enough to actually FINISH a whole meal! He is still skinny, but he always has been. That just hasn't changed. He was premature by 3 weeks and his growth isn't stunted. He isn't short for his age. He is right on target. He is a little thin, which may or may not be caused by the Concerta. It's hard to tell because he has always been thin and most of the men in our family were thin when they were young. About hugging, I guess you know your own child best but I don't tolerate needless crying. I also don't tolerate whining, which is what I consider the excessive crying. I do know my own son, and when you baby him it just gets worse and worse. I don't believe in babying kids. That might work on some but I can't stand to see parents just absolutely lavish attention on a tiny little boo boo. That just makes the negative attention worse. Hug your child, make them know it's going to be ok, but you don't have to treat them like they are an infant. That just creates clingy, whiney, kids. My daughter is SUUUUCH and actress. She KNOWS who gives her sympathy and who does not and OH BOY does she milk it for ALLLLL it is worth. When she falls and hurts herself in front of Mommy, Mommy checks to be sure it's ok, kisses it and sends her on her way. Sometimes I have to tell her to stop the excessive crying because I am not falling for the dramatic act. She usually stops pretty quick. She can turn those tears on like a faucet!! Now...when SUGAR is around OH LORDY it's the end of the world. WAAAHHHH!!!! She milks it for every bit of sympathy she is going to get. When I came back from being at Music Camp this past summer, my daughter had about 6 bandaids on her. I thought, Oh my gosh, what happened?...NOTHING! She had bandaids on her and there was NOTHING UNDER THEM! I was like..."Mom, why does she have bandaids all over her and nothing under them?"
" Oh, well, because she wanted them"
...uh ok...
AARRRGHHH!!!!!I have to "debrat" my kids everytime my parents have them for any great length of time because they spoil them so. Yeah, grandparents think they have this right, but I think it's more their responsibility to uphold the parents teachings because it SOO makes it harder on us to be the "bad" guys. I hear SOO often, "Well Sugar or Papaw lets me do this or that." Well goody. I am your parent. I don't care what they let you do. They have made their mistakes, they don't need to keep remaking them with our kids. I know my kids probably think I am very strict. But I have to be. I have so much in this world to combat that isn't. Morally, socially, academically, GRANDPARENTALLY! I think that they will look back one day and thank me. I know I will have some very tough battles. My daughter and I will knock heads MORE than a few times. We are too much alike. Feelings will be hurt. My son is a perfect little mold. Always wanting to please. Handsome little boy. My biggest challenge with him is to make him his own person. Yes, follow the rules but be your own person as you do. Think for yourself! My daughter's biggest challenge will be, STOP BREAKING THE RULES!! Sweet little girl. Very Dramatic. Very beautiful. Curly red hair and big blue eyes. Manipulative streak a mile wide if I don't watch it. WHEW! Do I have my job cut out for me or don't I?!
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