Posted by headachequeen on November 20, 2004, at 0:13:16
In reply to Re: May I join in? » saw, posted by AuntieMel on November 19, 2004, at 11:24:40
> Sabrina:
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> I have heard this works.
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> When he is crying like that it is probably because he is overwhelmed. Pick him up, take him to a quiet room and hold him and stroke him and make soothing sounds and reassure him that you love him until he calms down. The important thing is that he is the ONLY thing that you pay attention to.
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> This, believe it or not, works for tantrums, and will not spoil him as it isn't the same thing as giving into the tantrum.
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> Source: I don't remember her name, but she designed the montessori program. Her techniques were perfected while working in, I think, a mental hospital.
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> I wish I had heard of it when my kids were that age.
This does work....
it works very very well... and for more help on this one, I shall ask a friend who raised two adopted children who were both special needs... one was born with fetal alcohol syndrome as well as being ADHD and the other was born angry because of the anger surrounding her while she was in the womb... and is ADD...also my beloved second eldest daughter works with children who have these problems and I shall call her...
when one has these resources why not put them to work for one???
for that matter, I am ADD... as an adult and was no doubt as a child...
I am an only child and it is probably a good thing... I would never willingly have shared my grandparents with a sibling LOL
but I have always had a hard time being still and calm and all the things that go with it...
but instead of meds, my teachers challenged me, and put me to work on things that interested me or gave me books to read... books beyond my age group...
in grade two I was reading Kipling, Shute and Bates ... Kipling is still my favourite above all and the other two come in very close seconds... I remember in grade one reading a book called Artie and the Princess and The Land of Green Ginger two children's books I still treasure... and Maggie Muggins... the only 'children's books' I really valued...
I had found books written for older people and away I went...
In my teens I never experimented with drugs...
and look at me now, making up for lost time :(
kat
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