Posted by Dinah on November 14, 2004, at 23:35:49
In reply to Re: The doctor visit on Tuesday » Larry Hoover, posted by jujube on November 14, 2004, at 17:25:32
It's hard for me to get over this big imaginary plexiglass wall between me and the rest of the world to respond (see my post on Psychology if that doesn't make sense), but I have read all everyone has said, and I can't tell you how much I appreciate the support. I really can't even begin to express it.
Lar, as usual you're brilliant. I think I'll call and see if I can talk to the doctor before Tuesday. There's no real way to separate my parents (although how they're going to fit two wheelchairs in one cramped exam room is beyond me), since they've both got appointments. He generally sees them together. I really hope he's more help this time than last time.
GG, you are as wonderful as always too. You really have a good understanding of the situation, and of course I'm not offended. I'm not great at caretaking humans in general, and I'd be abysmal with my parents. I can barely stand being around them without touching them. Thank you so much for the resource list (and you too, Poet).
I think that my mother may possibly be thinking of what she believes she can do. She's seen how much weaker my father is now than last week before he went into the hospital. He's already been unable to get out of his wheelchair into bed once and they had to call 911. So she's decided to put the boxspring directly on the floor. How well that works remains to be seen, but at least it means she's thinking about it. It isn't enough, but maybe she'll be less stubborn about what he needs. (and pigs will fly)
I greatly fear he's going to have to move to a residential facility soon, and that not even a sitter will be enough unless it's a big burly sitter. It's astonishing to me how fast this is happening.
Thanks again everyone. I'll let you know if the doctor helps me any. He has been steadfastly more laid back about everything than the nurses who've cared for my father have been, and I have no idea how much of it is humoring my father and how much is actually believing my father. My hopes aren't enormously high, but you never know.
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