Posted by antigua on September 15, 2004, at 12:49:30
In reply to Re: Achingly, painful hurt (this is VERY long) » antigua, posted by saw on September 15, 2004, at 5:34:14
Well, according to my husband, he's perfect :)
Good luck this weekend. See, for me, this is when I would really screw up--when my husband asked me not to and I was very fragile. Then he would get mad at me, I would feel guilty, which fed into my shame, yada, yada, yada, which just made me hit a downward spiral. Now I try not to be so defensive and try to deflect what he says when he's really talking about himself but blaming me for everything. He has a choice to be with me, just as I do w/him.
Everyone thinks he's such an enthusiastic, optimistic person, but he's not really. He's a pessimist at heart, but since I've learned that I treat him differently. He's very methodical, he's a scientist but I tell him that I don't fit in a test tube.
Please know that I love my husband very much and I know he loves me. We've been together a very long time but now I am able to stand up to him better and become the person I want to be and not the one he thinks I should be.
Take care,
antigua
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