Posted by fallsfall on July 9, 2004, at 18:49:34
In reply to T vacation, posted by underthecs on July 9, 2004, at 9:52:37
Of course we don't hate you!
I think that your reaction was pretty normal. If I recall, there was a section in "In Session" that talks about how patients are often angry when their therapists come back and refuse to talk. So don't feel like you are too weird.
What were you angry about? Were you angry that he left you? Were you angry that he didn't know that you wanted to talk about his vacation even though you said you didn't? Were you angry that he let you "waste" 2 hours of therapy time in silence (by the way, silence is not necessarily a waste of therapy time. Sometimes it *is* communication (of anger for instance). Sometimes it is space so that you can feel that it is safe to talk again. Sometimes it can be a comfortable way to just be *with* each other.)?
It is *SO* hard to say "Yes, I want to talk about this incredibly painful thing". But sometimes you need to say this. Sometimes I say "No, I don't want to talk about it, but we probably need to".
And it is so scary for me to be angry at my therapist. I tend not to get angry at most people (I do get angry at my daughter - lucky her!), so I think that I'm afraid of what it will do to the relationship and to me (I don't really worry about what my anger will do to *him* because I sort of expect that he will take care of himself).
Sort of a rambling answer to say that you sound pretty normal to me...
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