Posted by jay on July 4, 2004, at 11:50:42
In reply to Re: Ladies (and maybe guys)..I need your thoughts plz., posted by deirdrehbrt on July 2, 2004, at 21:10:39
> Hi, Jay.
>
> Sometimes playing with hair can mean she's playing with hair. On the other hand, a smile and a wave can mean that she thinks that she can trust you some.
> I think that she has good vibes with you. I think that if you want a friend, you have to start with an acquaintance, and you are on your way there.
> Friendship though, involves more than looks and familiar smiles; I think you know that. Now, you need to become better acquainted, and see if you really do have enough in common. It's hard to be close friends if you don't like rock, and that's what she is crazy over; If you're a Christian, and she's a Pagan, etc.
> To really honor someone though, don't attempt to change who you are to become who you think she wants. That really hurts two people.
> Having an acquaintance who respects you is much better than having someone not like you because you tried to hard.
>
> I'm not sure exactly how my brain's doing these days. I know the moods are better, and I hope the advice isn't completely out there.
>
> Good luck, Jay. You sound like a heck of a guy. I'd probably smile and play with my hair if I saw you looking at me.
>
>
> Dee.Dee...thank you..indeed...as I have had a *really* bad weekend. (Medication probs and stuff...) I really appreciate and thank you for your last paragraph. (*blush*) I will just do as you say...and look to just being a 'friendly' neighbour, because I would also feel bad if I rushed into anything, and if she *was* interested, her not knowing about my mental health issues.
Thank you for your great advice...and vote of confidence. :-) It was really, really nice and sweet.
Best,
Jay
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