Posted by TexasChic on June 16, 2004, at 12:47:27
In reply to Re: PLEASE READ: i need help and to know i'm not a, posted by tampagirl70 on June 16, 2004, at 11:57:53
I don't think I like the sound of that 'making the decision for both of you' part. Is he controling? Or abusive (physical or verbal)? I think your fears of being on your own are normal, but I wouldn't let that keep you from doing what is best for you.
I grew up with a very dominating, controling, and verbally abusive father. I know alot of my problems stem from that. My therapist said that as a child, I learned to stay alert at all times, because I never knew what would set him off. She said that served me well as a kid, it was a way of protecting myself. But now as an adult, its like I can't turn it off. I'm always on edge, waiting for something bad to happen. Of course meds and therapy have helped me tremendously, but I still have a ways to go.
A therapist can help you organize your thoughs so that you can see your situation more clearly. That will help you to make an intelligent decision as to what to do. Don't be shy about telling your therapist exactly what you want her help with.
Let us know how your situation progresses. And come hear anytime to vent or just talk. There are some very caring people here, and they know where your coming from. Don't feel bad if it takes a little while for a response, that just happens sometimes because they're involved in another thread and may not have had the chance to get to yours yet.
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