Posted by LynneDa on June 9, 2004, at 13:44:49
In reply to Re: Baby Steps, posted by geri122 on June 9, 2004, at 13:32:38
Geri - I'm so sorry to hear what's happening to you. Ride the waves. The good times and the bad times come & go don't they? The good ones will come back again.
Have you been able to talk to your mom about this or write her a note maybe? What brought this on? It appears that they think you need some "toughening" up or that they want to tighten the reins so you won't get out of their control. Do you know what their expectations of you are right now? Are they giving you any conditions you have to meet before their behavior will change? I know this is not the way to help you, but in their minds it is all they know to do.
Maybe you need to give them a little guidance on what you need. Sounds weird and it takes a lot of maturity to talk to your parents about this sort of thing without sounding sassy or without losing your cool.
Honey, don't cut yourself. I'm assuming that's what you mean. That can be a really addictive behavior. There has to be another outlet for you. Can you scream in a pillow or leave the house at all & just run, run, run until you feel better? Is there anyone else you feel comfortable calling when you get to this point?
Thanks for writing. Don't be scared . . . this too shall pass. Think about what you've done, think about what you need to do. Get a plan and share it with your Mom. Keep writing, I've been wondering how you've been doing!
~ Lynne
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one thing after another. I thought i was doing great. things were looking up and then it all hit at once. My parents are on strick.... against me... not my sis just me. THey are always running for her, never for me. I barely ask them for anything, and now when do they won't even do it. I got in a huge fight with my dad, my sis, and my mom. I got in fight with Jenn.. my best friend... i feel trapped and scared. I couldn't get a hold of her.. i needed to talk and i couldn't. I did something stupid... i wanted a physical reason to cry, i wanted to make all of the emotional pain go away. What am i going to do the next time i can't get ahold of her, when i am alone? I am scare.... i am really scared!!!!
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